Holidays
Handling Holiday Stress: Ten Tips For Singles
Author: Toni Coleman

Here we go again. Presents to buy, work to finish up, cards to write, plans to make, events and parties to attend: and all those things we must do because weve always done them.
Does this sound familiar? Do you go to sleep at night with the feeling that you are hopelessly behind schedule, yet have made good use (overuse) of your time? Do you experience even a small measure of dread as you approach this season, and a large measure of relief when its all over? Most importantly, are you savoring any of the lovely sights, sounds, smells and feelings that are unique to this time of year; or are you just too tired and rushed to even notice? If this describes you, you are probably suffering from holiday stress. Compounding this is the widely held belief that this is just the way it has to be, and that your task is to just get through it.

The following tips are designed to give you a new perspective on this all too common problem. Read on, and see if you can make some small behavior changes/additions that could result in a lot less stress and a lot more enjoyment in the weeks ahead.

1.If you have a fairly sizeable family/extended family to shop for, your level of monetary, time and emotional stress can be very high. Therefore, consider approaching your family about your present tradition of gift exchanging. Growing in popularity is the system of drawing one name (of one family member) to buy a nice gift for. Everyone in the family receives one gift that another member had the time (and budget) to choose well. If your family is resistant, you could opt for two gifts per person, or some other compromise.

2.Try a new tradition of having a shopping day with friends (or family). Draw up
your list, head for a nice mall or town center with great little shops (even better)
and make it a day of shopping, lunch and lattes. You could finish with a late
afternoon movie!

3.Consider on-line shopping. This is a great way to save time and get free gift-wrapping without the lines and headaches. It also allows more time for you to choose just the right gift for each person. You can have them mailed to you or sent to whatever address they will eventually be going to.

4.If you send cards, consider after Christmas cards or New Years cards. Why rush to send them before Christmas? The folks who receive them will have more time to focus on your news after Christmas, and may even find it more fun to receive something in the mail during the quiet let down period that follows each holiday.

5.Try to plan a few extra days off right before or during the December-January holidays. Even one extra day could be useful to pack, get an early start on travel, finish up last minute chores or errands, or catch up on sleep and R&R. We often mistakenly assume we will feel more rushed and behind if we take down time- the reverse is actually what occurs.

6.Do an inventory of your must-do. After you make your list, go through each one and ask yourself is this activity really gives you pleasure or serves your needs or the needs of a loved one. Cross off any that dont answer yes to the above question. Make sure you are not doing things out of rote because thats the way it has always been. If you have one or two you are unsure of, put them at the end of your list of priorities. This way, you can get to them if you have time after you have done the things you know will be of value to you.

7.Consider having a cleaning service come in at least once during the next month. Imagine the extra time (and lowered stress) you would have if someone else cleaned your bathroom and kitchen, washed your floors, dusted your furniture, etc. What a nice gift to give yourself!

8.Arrange to have a massage, facial, manicure or other spa treatment. These are wonderful stress relievers. They are especially nice late in the day at the end of a hectic few days. Afterwards, you can go out for a quiet meal or go home and get some things done and then get a restful nights sleep.

9.Make sure you are doi coach who specializes in working with singles seeking lasting, healthy relationships. She has authored eclasess and designed a teleclass that teaches singles how to be successful in building a relationship. Her articles are published on many internet dating sites, where she is also a featured relationship coach.

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